Life, it is a four-letter word filled with good times and bad. Times of pure and utter beauty, and times of unrefined hell and horror. So, much like the actual four-letter word, the meaning of life is exactly what you make it mean.
Life is filled with love and loss. As Shakespeare once said, “Tis better to have loved and lost than to never have loved before.” Depending on the type of person you are and how you deal with rejection, and getting dumped like a sack of hammers off the top floor of the BurjKhalifa, you could find Valentines Day very painful or just annoying.
No matter if you are single or in a relationship, this article is dedicated to you.
I am very aware that this is going up well past Valentines Day. However, if you are the type of person who thinks there is only one designated day a year for someone to celebrate or show your love for your special someone, you obviously are new at this “love” thing.
Well, buddy, I’m not a therapist and I’m not getting paid to help you, so good luck!
If you find yourself single on Valentines Day, take solace in the fact that you are not alone…I mean you are but, you aren’t the only one that is single. What I mean is that there are other single people around you that feel similar to how you feel.
As we live in a time filled with hookups, one night stands, and friend-zones that are as vast as the eye can see; it seems like a person might never find the person they are meant to be with. The fact is if you go out with the mindset of, ‘I am going to find my someone in this bar on this night, or on this website at this time,’ in my experience it ends up with you being as single leaving the bar as when you walked in.
If the above statement is too complicated let me put it as simply as I possibly can; don’t expect anything, do not anticipate anything. Just live your life and do what makes you happy. By doing this you may meet and possibly date some cool people…and some jerks too (just being honest). Eventually, you will meet your soul mate. After all, what makes a person a ‘soulmate’ is someone you connect with on a level that is not explainable through words.
You just understand each other with little effort of trying…and before you go off on me, fairytail soulmates are exactly that, FAIRYTAILS. Soulmates mean you just understand and accept each other. Soulmates still fight (verbally), like brother and sister. But at the end of the night, after all the screaming and yelling and name calling; they work through the issues. It comes down to just simply looking into one anothers’ eyes and seeing that special spark. I know its a stereotype, but its true. Once you feel it, and you know the person is the one, you will never see the world the same. All the clichés about love are true!
Bottom line here is, don’t force anything. Everything happens in its own time. Just live your life and keep an eye out for someone that adds happiness to your life but still drives you a little bit crazy.
Bonus: I personally don’t like using the term ‘soulmates,’ but its the best and fastest way I can convey ‘people that just click or ‘work‘ together’.